No seriously, what actually constitutes closure?

I often think of myself as someone who “needs” closure – and I see myself as being the primary provider of said closure. Whether it is situation that needs to be settled or a relationship that needs to be redefined, I figure that hashing it out with whoever is at the other end will lead to me getting over it. In other words, I must be heard before I can move on. And how do I like to “be heard” you might ask – I want to look good coming out of it – to make sure that the other person understands my viewpoint, to make sure they know how they have messed up, to make sure I get the last word. None of that is my job – and some days, I remember to thank God for that. Most days, I just want to play God – which is both incredibly stupid and incredibly prideful. In the end, my self-induced closure rarely lives up to it’s name. In reality, God is the only one who can provide true closure – and for me to think that I can somehow provide it for myself is just foolish. So, I am working on that – working on having faith that God will provide everything I need – which very often includes closure.